Which one is more difficult?

There are 2 steps to doing something:

  1. Making up your mind
  2. Committing yourself to that

In my personal experience, commitment is an issue – especially when I have made up my mind to do something.

There are times (like today/nowadays) when I am unable to make up my mind towards exactly what I want to do.

And then there are times when I am pretty much clear of what exactly I want/need to do, but I am unable to follow it through – from a commitment point of view.

I lack commitment more (not always though) than making up my mind.

I am going to get over this (I am not going to “try” it, I “will” get over this).

I’ve got a few things going on – personally(pertaining to just me, not my wife/kids/parents/relatives – just me – “personal”), professionally, family wise, financially etc – and I believe I am going to be “making my mind” on some of these things in about a week (or a “focused all-night-er” – perhaps tomorrow, may be…) and then I would be committing myself to the actions required for those.

Both of these things are extremely difficult.

  1. Making up your mind to do something (planning)
  2. Committing yourself to do those things (executing the planning)

Execution has been a bigger issue for me, yet, and I am going to eliminate this issue – by executing my plans the way they should be.

What are the things that I believe are needed for:

  1. Planning : Clarity of thoughts, written-down thoughts (prefer hard-copy version, if soft-copy is your thing then go ahead with that), revisit the thoughts every few days/weeks, bridge the gap between your “family persona” and “official persona”, bring your love for family to your work(not company), and bring your love for your work(not company) to your family, think more, give yourself “phone-free” or “distraction-free” time – daily, read what you “think” you are going to “plan”, be more focused, give attention to detail, be competitive, be fast, be faster, be more efficient, talk more, share more, feed your mind more, do not “indulge” in entertainment, do not be addicted to anything, be flexible, be strong and not rigid, be courageous and not bounded, be free, think more(yes, this is repeated, because it is important – THINK MORE)
  2. Execution: Will!

I lack(ed) will, hence the lack in execution, and I am catching up to my will… I still fail and falter, and I shrug off the problems every now and then by doing merciless introspection – I don’t make myself a fool, and I expect very high level of “common-sense” from myself during those introspection sessions – which usually kick-off with “Yes, Mr. JD, what the f*ck is going on?” and the answers start like “Well, you know how *something* is happening/about-to-happen, and I think believe I must do this *something* with more focus, commitment and will”

Well – that’s a lot of stuff for a post that I thought would be 2 lines – I guess that’s what 3.30 AM does to you… removes the brakes of the thought-train, and it doesn’t stop… you have to jump out from the running train (missing on a lot of unexplored venues if you would have stayed on that train… but you are scared that you would never want to jump if you continue to ride…)

Funny thoughts!

Unfair and unrealistic expectations

It is an unfair and unrealistic expectation to put on ourselves that every day at work, at home, with our spouse, with our friends would be spectacular or fulfilling.

There will be days that are “routine”.

We get up, and are not so mindful of the day, drag ourself to start the day, have a lazy breakfast (or skip it, and have a cup of tea, or just coffee at the office – or wherever we go).

We proceed with the day, do whatever we are supposed to do – and may be with less of a heart – but we get it done.

Wait for the day to end, and then just end it.

There would be days that are bad, and we don’t like the way things are going. That could be multiple days in a row, but not every day.

You could not be happy every day, but you can still be full of joy. It’s a choice that you make.

You don’t have to like every day, but you love every day.

You don’t have to like your children every day, but you love them every day.

 

Sometimes the work (or business/organization) is not designed to take care of our happiness/joy.

But sometimes(actually, most of the time), it is us – We are making ourself unhappy.

WE consider ourself victims – due to organization structure, the tasks, the vision/mission, some policies and what not.

What we fail to do (and process) is to see what the motive and intent of the organization is and what pain is being taken to make us more happy.

It is (also) problem with most organizations that they fail to let us know what they are doing. Writing an aweomse vision/mission statement and creating great-sounding OKRs does not guarantees that we understand what it means and how we connect with those objective, and instead the focus is on achieving the “Metrics” for the key results.

#startedWithSomethingAndEndedWithSomethingElse #bwah

Seven things for a happy life

There are people who know what they are doing in life, and the direction in which they are doing.

There are others who have not found the right direction or the passion to do something, not just yet.

If you do not have anything in particular to focus on, then following steps could help boost up the energy and might help find the passion in life as well – but will keep you happy either way:

  1. Become competitive (if not already)
  2. Finish things (don’t let them hanging – books, assignments, projects, chores)
  3. Ensure your super close circle is better than you(in whatever way you want to improve)
  4. Never let the mind rest
  5. Make sure other credible(successful) people give you credibility
  6. Learn more
  7. Obsess